“It Musta’ Been Easy For You…..”

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I was at a network meeting when someone told me how much they admired me and what I’d accomplished. I’ll spare you the list of accolades but suffice to say I walked away with a swollen head.

It seems they enjoyed my writing style and had developed the impression that I never made a single mistake or failure in the twenty plus years I’d been in business for myself.

I asked them why they felt that way.

You’re able to pinpoint whats wrong with a situation and give advice on how to fix it. I just think you’re amazing. That’s a real gift.

I ran my hand through my beard for a few seconds and asked them if they really believed what they’d just said.

All those things I write about come from first hand experience. If I’d never made all of those mistakes I doubt I’d be standing in front of you today. I’m successful but I haven’t always felt that way.

I’d just told someone the Easter Bunny and Santa were not for real.

Do you wanna grab a cup of coffee?

When we sat down here’s what I shared with him

  • If it ain’t broke you ain’t trying hard enough
  • Most online business do not make it over a year.
  • Know|Like|Trust – Rinse and Repeat
  • There’s always another shiny object lurking around out there somewhere!

Have I enjoyed myself along the way? You bet!

Have I met some fascinating people? Uh-Huh!

Did I have opportunities I’d never dreamed of? Sure did!

But easy? Nah.

If it had come easy I wouldn’t appreciate things as much as I do.

I’ll give you one final pearl of wisdom to chew on

Never, ever forget the LESSONS of past experiences

There is a movement today that encourages us to blot out our past and cover it up with mantra’s, rainbows, unicorns and sunshine.

Don’t!

Our past is who we are and suggesting we forget it is akin to cutting off an arm or leg.

Learn from it and let it scare you sometimes because it’s a beacon, a sign, a whatever you wanna call it that says Don’t step there again.

Okay, I promised myself to stop here.

Listen to YOU

ALL of YOU

A Moment of Clarity

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Have you ever heard the story about the people of Israel who wandered in the desert for forty years trying to find a home?

Did you know that from Point A to Point B was roughly a ten day trip in a straight line?

Do you know anyone who walks in a straight line?

I don’t .

I mostly zig and zag and then back track, stall, procrastinate, pray, curse, pray more, curse more, think about quiting, curse the fates and rinse and repeat.

It’s not too often that I have a moment of clarity. I walk around in a fog mostly mumbling about my bad luck and asking God to shine a light in front of me so my path is clear.

I’ve been struggling for 21 years, Struggling with one question.

What is it you do, John?

Oh, I’ve answered the question in sentences and paragraphs, complete with graphs, testimonials, SEO and all that other marketing heeby – jeeby stuff. But let me ask you something. Have you ever walked away from an experience and feel les than satisficed? Like you’re wandering in the desert for forty years or so?

If you’ve been a solopreneur for any length of time you know what I’m talking about. If you don’t know yet, no worries. Your day is coming.

Anyways, a few weeks ago the admin of a Facebook group I’m in asked the question What is is you do?

Shit. That question again.

This time though God, the Universe, my sprit guides, angels and ancestors………… gave me a sliver of clarity and a valuable lesson.

To help other people; especially those people who didn’t have all the advantages I’ve had.

The clouds parted, the thunder ceased and just for a brief moment everything was in harmony.

Yeah, that’s it. That’s what I’ve always done!

So, here is my mindfulness experience for this past week:

Clarity comes when and where it chooses. Forcing it only makes it tarry a bit longer. The harder you push the harder it digs in.

Clarity is a gift. It is not a process. When we try to turn clarity into a workshop, seminar, or webinar, we come up short. It cant be taught. It has to be experienced.

Forty seven dollars and a workbook do not provide us with clarity in our lives or our businesses, regardless of what the “Poohroos” tell us. Clarity comes from living life.

I’m qualified to do a lotta things but what I do best is help other people especially those folks who didn’t have all of the opportunities in life I’ve had. It’s the marginalized people, the forgotten, the ridiculed.

Yeah them people, and right now, everything seems pretty damned clear to me.

What is it you do? I’m anxious to know.